Everyone has had at least one or two people that have come into their lives, left a huge mark, and then left them to struggle with the pain of his/her absence. The feeling is almost insurmountable and can leave one breathless, it can even drive one into extreme fits of silence, starvation, depression, bitterness and many other 'un-healthy" physical and emotional disorders. Nearly everything reminds you of that person, the joy you shared with them, and the pain you suffered for them; all these memories that you are left to cope with are mere disappointments as you realize what you thought was a "healthy and growing" relationship was just a waste of your time, energy, and passion. And to think this is what they call "Love".
Well obviously its not. Often people misinterpret their relationships for those they have envisioned or dreamed of, and make the fatal mistake of ignoring or becoming ignorant to the reality of things. Reality equals truth, and the truth hurts. If anything that's the only pain a person should experience from a relationship; the pain of knowing the person they were "in-love" with may not share the same emotional connection with him/her, or that perhaps he/she is not the right one.
Soon "bit-by-bit", as you are finally grasping hold to reality you learn to free your mind of those memories that always seem to bind you back in love with him/her. The same person, and memories that used to take your breath away, can allow to re-gain your breath once you learn to let them go. Chock it up as a lesson learned, or stepping stone in your road to success/growth, or whichever you may feel is appropriate for you. This last part can be considered exhaling or "breathing". Webster's defines breathe as an adjective : to live. Basically continue the rest of your life in a healthy "non-obsessive" manner with the new experience of love and relationships that you have under you belt; and when your life does bring you to that chapter again make wiser decisions.
