Based from my own adolescent experiences with guys, I have come to regard them and their ability to be truthful and trustworth in concern to relationships as such:
A Dog lies (of course)
A little Boy ony tells haf of the truth (and saves the other half that will follow trouble)
A Man always delivers the truth (no matter how ugly or how hard the consequnces)
Perhaps with the advancement of life's experiences my view point on this matter will change. However I do understand that before I, myself, seek out another guy to have a relationships with and possibly run the same risk or deception, and heart-break, I think it would be important to first study the characteristics of a good man first. In doing so I can hope to recognize when one does enter my life, and when a man of the opposite character enters my life (in which I will kindly show him the exit!).
Let's focus on the last bullet; a man always delivers the trruth. I know most women (especially those with more experience) would probably dispute my claim. But I like to look at this from a more spiritual view. Referring the the bible in the book of Numbers, chapter 23, and verse 19, it reads:
"God is not a man who lies, or a son of man who changes His mind. Does he speak and not act, or promise and not fulfill?" (Numbers 23:19)
I know there is a big diference between man and God, and thet even though God is capable of speaking the truth, it doesnt mean that the men placed here on earth are, or that we should even expect them to. This is where the paradox comes in at, becuase it is written in the book of Genesis, chapter 1, and verse 27:
"So God created man in His own image. He created him in the image of God; He created them male and female." (Gen. 1:27)
After searching the scriptures I realized that it is possible for men to be honest, yet, he has to be a man that follows in the likeness and image of God. I know that in these days it is rather hard to find a man like this, who lives his life and models his character after the will of the Lord, yet a man such as this is well worth the wait.
Guys if you are thinking about pursuing a relationship with me here are a few things you should know!
First off, dont'even look for the "Cheat Sheet". Yes, I said it. Often in relationships guys are expecting us girls to tell them exactly what we want and what we are looking for. That's major flaw number one, because most girls and women (especially my age), are not even sure of what we want, but we will know it when we experience it. If a guy is seeking a relationship with me, no I'm not going to provide him a "cheat sheet" into my heart. A "cheat sheet" enables exactly what it's name implies. With a "Cheat Sheet" a guy is able to memorize, and mimic those things we as girls claim that we want in a guy. Essentially he is cheating both himself, us, and the relationship, by not presenting his true personality and character to us. Instead, as I mentioned, he will simply fulfill those things we listed in hopes that it will speed things up.
I guess this is where most guys get frustrated with me at, and give up. (Laughing out Loud). I, as unique and complicated as I might be, believe that I am worth a guys time. See I feel that if a guy who is interested in dating and being in relationship with me, really wants to know "what I want", then he will take the time and learn me. No, not learn as in study me, as if i were some kind of lab rat. Instead, I mean he would have to spend time with me, communicating, getting to know me, seeing what I am about, what I believe in, who I am, and who I aspire to be, where do I plan on going in life, what are my goals, and aspirations. Yeah, I know it seems like I'm asking him to search my soul, but I'm really not. See often, with relationships today, girls let guys off way too easy, and allow them to get away with so many excuses concerning how he treats her, that now guys have fallen into the misconception that they really don't need to spend that much time getting to know us. I can not count the times where I have been approached by a guy that felt it was just "too much work" to get to know me. I understand that I am not just a beautiful face, but also I am a beautiful person, and I am well worth the guy's time spent in getting to know me. (oh well, i guess its just their loss, huh?).Yes, its nothing but hard work, and persistence, being with me, and I honestly want a guy strong enough to stand the test.
See, when i think of relationships, I consider them to be a bond between any number of people, that include communication, shared experiences and interests, and trust. These types of relationships exists amongst friends, family, co-workers, partners, and such. Yet, when a relationship is being formed between only two people (who are romantically interested), then all these components of a relationship are taken to a deeper, and more intimate level. And when these two people are able to achieve these components on this level, they are able to form a deeper appreciation for each other. This is what I truly want, as a girl. I want someone that can appreciate Morae, for everything that she is, and can be. In the same token, Morae also understands that, as in any relationship, both partners must benefit. So, I also want a guy that wants to be appreciated, (meaning he has to be doing something with his life), and with that we can grow together, influence and inspire one another, learn, and become better individuals for each other.
This is just a tid-bit of what I don't want:
I dont need a daddy!!
I really don't want a guy that believes he always has to come out of his pockets and spend on me. I am capable of taking care of Morae. This doesn't mean that i wouldn't want a chivalrous guy, that wouldn't leave me stuck with the check, should he and i go out to eat.
I am not your personal property!!
I'm sick of guys who try to "claim" me. I'm not a piece of property, I'm a woman. I, instead, would rather a gentlemen that knows how to respect me, and my physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual space.
No "Baby Boys" and no "Scrubs"
I'm not Yvette, and do not hope to find myself a "Jodi". (if you know what i mean). Respect yourself as a man, anb be about something.
So hope with me ladies that I can one day find what this girl wants.
